I just want to say that I am a card carrying voter, flag waving, daughter of a veteran, apple pie baking American.
I am just sickened by the fact that Americans feel the necessity to validate misbehavior. Now I am not saying that we should take on the ideals of Eastern societies of caning, chopping of limbs, or even severer corporal punishment but rather take a stand and speak up for accountability. Americans are constantly seeking out ways to avoid personal accountability and place blame not on the person who actually did the act, but to find someone else who provoked or provided an outlet for said act to be completed.
Follow my thought here.
You accidentally left your door unlocked one night.
Joe Schmo comes along, enters your home, trips over your end table, breaks his leg all in the act of robbing you.
You call the police.
Joe Schmo gets taken to jail for robbery, but then turns around and takes you to court for getting hurt in your home.
He sues the living daylights out of you, because he would not have gotten hurt if you hadn't have left your front door unlocked.
He wins.
You lose your home and savings because even though he broke in, had some of your belongings in his possession, he got hurt on your property.
Crazy stupid huh? Yeah. Happens time and again, maybe in this scenario but in many others that we justify. This past weekend, I read an article on the death of Whitney Houston. Ok, no matter what I feel sympathy for her family and their loss. Her toxicology report will not be back for a few weeks as to the specificity of what cocktail she died from. My point is, they are looking into suing the doctor that wrote her the prescriptions. Well, we as Americans are used to getting what we want and we will pay for it. So if it wasn't one doctor, we would have fired them and found someone that would give us what we want. Or even better, who is to say, that there were multiple doctors writing multiple prescriptions? Or even pseudonyms coming into play.
Is it tragic that she died? Yes. Was it foul play? No. Did she open her mouth drop pills and then chase them by alcohol? Yes. Was she aware of the ramifications of mixing meds and alcohol? Duh, every prescription issued comes with an awareness pamphlet.
So according to the world, it's not her fault. It is the doctor (s). But then it's just not their responsibility, it's the pharmacists too. They all were in that hotel room, physically held her down opened her mouth, and poured a human Molotov cocktail down her throat. Who is to say she wasn't trying to kill herself, but we will blame someone else rather than say...yes her death is tragic, but self propelled.
Now lets, take Hollywood aside.
Example 1: A friend of mine took her kid to the community center this week. There were a few children playing on the indoor play ground. One child in particular was purposefully trying to hurt the other children. The "mother" wasn't paying a bit of attention. The representative from the community center had even stepped in to correct this behavior and the "mother" did nothing but chatter on her phone and with someone else there. Then the kid comes up to my friends child and tries to hit him. My friend immediately interrupts the behavior by loudly saying "We don't play like that, we don't hit." Then, only then does the "mother" take action. Not by correcting the child, but by yelling at my friend, because she should not have interrupted before her son got hurt. Turns out, the "hitter" was not her child, but one that was in her care at the time. But in her mind, he and his actions weren't her responsibility to monitor, my friend should not have let her child play on the indoor playground.
Example 2: Another friend of mine, a former teacher, is sickened by the fact that her 4 year old is about to enter school at a time when accountability is dismissed when it comes to misbehavior. Teacher's can't do a thing, for fear of losing their jobs, because parents hold the "not my kid" or even better "my kid only did that because the other kid provoked him". So either way it is not the aggressors fault but the bystander.
Example 3: You did not mean to kill so and so. You only did it because you got your heiny wacked as a child. Or, you only did it because you grew up with only one parent. Or, you only did it because...insert pathetic excuse here.
So why is there this aversion of just telling it like it is. You do the act itself, it is your fault, not the person who provided any outlet for the act to occur. We are losing our sense of decency. We are teaching our future generations that it's ok you are not accountable for your own actions because someone else provided you the means to do whatever it was that you did. Umm. No. I am sorry, I just won't stand for it. I will raise my children to know that they are accountable for their own actions, but as for the rest of society with a validation of misbehavior mindset, I feel I will be losing the decency battle.
I am just sickened by the fact that Americans feel the necessity to validate misbehavior. Now I am not saying that we should take on the ideals of Eastern societies of caning, chopping of limbs, or even severer corporal punishment but rather take a stand and speak up for accountability. Americans are constantly seeking out ways to avoid personal accountability and place blame not on the person who actually did the act, but to find someone else who provoked or provided an outlet for said act to be completed.
Follow my thought here.
You accidentally left your door unlocked one night.
Joe Schmo comes along, enters your home, trips over your end table, breaks his leg all in the act of robbing you.
You call the police.
Joe Schmo gets taken to jail for robbery, but then turns around and takes you to court for getting hurt in your home.
He sues the living daylights out of you, because he would not have gotten hurt if you hadn't have left your front door unlocked.
He wins.
You lose your home and savings because even though he broke in, had some of your belongings in his possession, he got hurt on your property.
Crazy stupid huh? Yeah. Happens time and again, maybe in this scenario but in many others that we justify. This past weekend, I read an article on the death of Whitney Houston. Ok, no matter what I feel sympathy for her family and their loss. Her toxicology report will not be back for a few weeks as to the specificity of what cocktail she died from. My point is, they are looking into suing the doctor that wrote her the prescriptions. Well, we as Americans are used to getting what we want and we will pay for it. So if it wasn't one doctor, we would have fired them and found someone that would give us what we want. Or even better, who is to say, that there were multiple doctors writing multiple prescriptions? Or even pseudonyms coming into play.
Is it tragic that she died? Yes. Was it foul play? No. Did she open her mouth drop pills and then chase them by alcohol? Yes. Was she aware of the ramifications of mixing meds and alcohol? Duh, every prescription issued comes with an awareness pamphlet.
So according to the world, it's not her fault. It is the doctor (s). But then it's just not their responsibility, it's the pharmacists too. They all were in that hotel room, physically held her down opened her mouth, and poured a human Molotov cocktail down her throat. Who is to say she wasn't trying to kill herself, but we will blame someone else rather than say...yes her death is tragic, but self propelled.
Now lets, take Hollywood aside.
Example 1: A friend of mine took her kid to the community center this week. There were a few children playing on the indoor play ground. One child in particular was purposefully trying to hurt the other children. The "mother" wasn't paying a bit of attention. The representative from the community center had even stepped in to correct this behavior and the "mother" did nothing but chatter on her phone and with someone else there. Then the kid comes up to my friends child and tries to hit him. My friend immediately interrupts the behavior by loudly saying "We don't play like that, we don't hit." Then, only then does the "mother" take action. Not by correcting the child, but by yelling at my friend, because she should not have interrupted before her son got hurt. Turns out, the "hitter" was not her child, but one that was in her care at the time. But in her mind, he and his actions weren't her responsibility to monitor, my friend should not have let her child play on the indoor playground.
Example 2: Another friend of mine, a former teacher, is sickened by the fact that her 4 year old is about to enter school at a time when accountability is dismissed when it comes to misbehavior. Teacher's can't do a thing, for fear of losing their jobs, because parents hold the "not my kid" or even better "my kid only did that because the other kid provoked him". So either way it is not the aggressors fault but the bystander.
Example 3: You did not mean to kill so and so. You only did it because you got your heiny wacked as a child. Or, you only did it because you grew up with only one parent. Or, you only did it because...insert pathetic excuse here.
So why is there this aversion of just telling it like it is. You do the act itself, it is your fault, not the person who provided any outlet for the act to occur. We are losing our sense of decency. We are teaching our future generations that it's ok you are not accountable for your own actions because someone else provided you the means to do whatever it was that you did. Umm. No. I am sorry, I just won't stand for it. I will raise my children to know that they are accountable for their own actions, but as for the rest of society with a validation of misbehavior mindset, I feel I will be losing the decency battle.
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